That's a pretty good article, I am glad she pointed out what most people don't see. I particularly like one line towards the end, "In other words boys and men may need to be civilized, but never feminized." I hate (yes, I am using the word 'hate,") women whom make their boyfriends carry their little shinny pink handbags, that is completely feminizing the men, are their own tiny handbags too heavy to carry? Even more disgusting is the fact that those men willingly, or unwillingly, carry the bags!!! A grown man walking in the mall, getting on and off buses with a handbag in one arm and his girlfriend in another! Mind-boggling!
Hong Kong guys are quite civilized, maybe because of the 100+ years of British rule, they know how to treat a lady, well, at least the guys I know, can't say if it is true for the newer generations.
I also find it extremely important when watching romantic movies to see what those movies really are, they are not documentaries, it is supposed to show the "impossible," that's why they are fun, because it's impossible, just like Superman. Women and young ladies who watch these movies have to understand what they are watching, i.e., grow a critical brain. Romantic comedies are supposed to take you out of reality for an hour or so, let you dream the impossible, and then you have to come back into the real world. Problems come when women confuse fantasy with reality and start building up an image of men in fantasy-land, just as problems come when you can't tell if Superman is real or fantasy, so you wear a red underwear, put on a red cape and fly out the 32nd floor window.
Using literature to explain, you will be in deep doo-doo if you read poetry like history and apocalyptic works (e.g., the book of Revelation) like fantasy. Genre is such an important element when understanding and enjoying literature or movies.
The reason I love Korean drama, is that men are civilized, not feminized, it shows men, to a certain extend, how a civilized man should think or act, respecting, protecting the woman, and very often, withholding his feelings for the good of the woman, sacrificing himself for the woman. However, I do not like their physical roughness towards women, dragging them by the wrists, yelling, but probably that's what Korean culture is like.
I love what the author of the article said to her girls, I am teaching Kioni the same thing, "One day look to marry a Christian man of faithful and strong character; whom they will respect and whose distinctly male characteristics they will appreciate; that I hope they will have a group of close women friends, and that they will never get them and their husbands confused."
However, I cringe at how she used the word 'pornography,' maybe she made up the term 'romantic pornography' just to draw attention? If "twisting the perception for women about real men and how they 'ought' to behave toward women" amounts to pornography, then there are too many kinds of pornography in this world, and the largest group of pornographers are pastors, since so many "twisted the perception for the congregation about the real God and how he "ought" to behave towards his people." I wish the author would have chosen another word for "pornography."
If one could give one's life up for another's salvation, I don't know how many Christians would give up their lives for Buddhist and Muslims. I thought of the decades of unceasing work in the gospel hard soil of Japan and numerous Islamic countries. The enormous amount of resources pouring in sure does not seem like it is ‘balancing’ the number of people saved. However, I am sure if you ask any one of those who are supporting ministries in these countries, who are working faithfully, who have given their lives for the people in these countries, “Is it worth it?” They will give you a definite "YES!"